When the Mind and the Heart Are At Odds.

"I used to believe in us, when times got tough, but lately I'm afraid that even love is not enough" Sugarland-Just Might (Make me Believe)    

 What happens when love is not enough to make a relationship last? Does it end? Do you go on make believing that everything is okay, because even tough those feelings of love are still there? Or is it you really don't love that person anymore, and you love the feeling of familiarity?

    I just do not have the answers to these questions. I do know that love really is not enough to make some thing work out that was never meant to be. You can love some one with all of your heart, but what if your head is telling you "no". If that happens does it work? I suppose that your head and heart have to be in sync with one another on order for love to work. In my opinion that is the only way that

Ain't that the truth.

you can achieve true happiness.

     Loving some one does not mean you absolutely have to be with them. Is it worth the heartache when the person that you are with is also the person that makes you cry? I don't think so. Love is not enough if that person has lied and cheated over and over again. you may still look at him or her with love, but they are not who they used to be.  Your heart makes some crazy decisions, and you should not have to pay for the mistakes that your heart makes on a whim. I believe that it may be along the lines that once we are familiar with some one, we just stay. We become complacent, and losing something familiar, albeit some thing not so healthy hurts a lot. When you recognize that what you have is not enough it is time for you to stand own your own two feet, gather your pride, and walk away.

     I have written it before, and I will write it again; YOU ARE ENOUGH. Regardless if you have made your own mistakes, and regardless of your flaws, you are enough. You so DO NOT have to stay in an unhealthy relationship, even if you think you love the person you are with because some times the best thing and the most mature thing you can do is end it. Ending it shows the other person that you love them enough to not let a charade continue.

     Remember this, above all, YOU are who you are, your feelings, thoughts, and emotions make you the person you are.. If you are with some one who is unable to love all of you, then you aren't with the person you are meant to be with. Be proud of who you are, love you and find the person who loves the you you love. (thank you Sex and the City for that) Find the person who will make your heart smile, the one who after years of being together makes your insides melt when they say your name. If you can find that person, than my friend you are luckier than most people on this earth. You found your soul mate. But do not settle, you are too good to settle for anything less than wonderful.